Perfect for the Job

I've spend the past two weeks thinking about how to reach out to women and help them feel of their worth in this world and their place in this life. Women are so incredible, yet so often feel weighed down with their own imperfections. We, as women, seem to feel this insane need to be perfect according to some set of imaginary standards. And since these standards are imaginary, they also seem to change regularly and without due cause. How on earth are women supposed to feel of any value when they are constantly comparing themselves to a fictitious ideal?

So this week, I'd like to focus on perfection from a realistic view. I have a firm belief that we are where as are for a reason. We have a purpose to fulfill. We have a job to get done. We have a work to do. Your current purpose may not be the same as another's, even someone who lives in a very similar situation. I currently live as a stay-at-home-mom to a beautiful one-year-old girl while my husband works to provide for our financial needs. I know there are many, MANY women in this world living in a similar situation. So does that mean we are here for the same reason? Most certainly not.

I was having this discussion with a few women from my church and one gal made a very profound statement. (At least to me it was profound.) She said that although she is not the perfect woman, she is perfect for her situation. She is not the perfect wife, but she is the perfect wife for her husband. She is not the perfect mother, but she is the perfect mother for her children. No other woman could give what she can give to her family. She is the perfect woman to fill that position. So, although she doesn't live up to that imaginary standard, she is perfect for her purpose.

This thought is fantastic because it teaches women to see their potential. The idea that you are the perfect one for the job means that you have the potential to be perfect according to that standard. Suddenly you have a tangible standard that is unchanging. Being perfect in a certain responsibility is so much more doable that simply being perfect. Being perfect is so ambiguous. Being the perfect person for a specific situation is specific.

This week, look at your life and find those situations that you have been chosen for. Where you picked from dozens (or hundreds!) or applicants for your job? You are the perfect person for that job! Where you put into a study group with a number of individuals that all have different personalities making progress seem impossible? You are perfect for that study group! Are you the spouse of a husband who is often busy trying to juggle his responsibilities at work and at home? You are the perfect wife for him! Are you the mother to a couple of crazy kids, hell bend on terrorizing the house? You are the perfect mother for them!

Whatever your situation is, come to the realization that your are the perfect person for that job. You have a purpose. You are where you are for a very important reason. Come to believe that. Tell yourself each morning. Say it again at lunch time. Remind yourself before you go to bed. You are the perfect one for your situation. You have great worth. Repeat it until you believe it. You have worth!